Family Force 5 - Let It Be Love
Q:To the anon: People of all kinds of different groups have done awful things in the name of whatever they believe in, not just people calling themselves Christians. Please don't let people who have hurt others supposedly in the name of God make you stop believing in Him. God is good, even though people aren't.
Q:Ugh, please ignore the women who claim feminism as a means to somehow discredit Christianity and Christ. As a Christian AND a feminist, I have to say that the Bible does SO much for women. Anon leaves out the fact that Jesus saves a prostitute from being stoned. Anon leaves out the fact that God trusted women with being the first people to see Jesus rise, there are so many examples that show God glorifying and loving women! He is here for us guys, He really is.
"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"
Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"
I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.
I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”
Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.
Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.
It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.
It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.
Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:
Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.
Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.
Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.
Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”
TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:
- You do not respect their rights as an individual.
- You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
- You probably haven’t been listening to them.
Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.
Q:Can I have Mary Sue finding powers like you? I wanna be able to read a book and find out if the girl/guy is Mary Sue/Gary Stu or not. I mean, how do you do it? I'm just so jealous... or I'm lowly skilled in Sue spotting... OTL
It really takes practice.
Lots of practice.
And you have to be mindful while you’re reading. Ask yourself how realistic the interactions are. Maybe kind of sum up what you’re feeling after each chapter for a while. With enough practice, you’ll be thinking about it critically without much effort.
That would take the enjoyment out of reading. Just read the book and enjoy it. Life is not an English class.
Q:what do you do if you've accepted God, but youre still afraid of being left behind
The Bible says “don’t be afraid” over 300 times. Just say no to fear.
Q:What's your opinion on partying and drinking? And what does the bible say about it too?
Here’s my thoughts.
1) Avoid even the appearance of evil.
2) Avoid temptation.
3) Avoid filling your mind with images of lust.
4) Avoid filling your heart with junky lyrics.
5) Avoid drunkenness.
6) Avoid bad company.
7) Represent Jesus at all times.
If you can do all that and still party, then I guess that’s fine.
God likes partying, it’s all over scripture. But remember in the story of the prodigal son: There were two parties. What made the party in the city bad, to the point of ruining the son’s life? And what made the father’s welcoming party good?